Dating etiquette at 40

04 Jun

It’s a bitter pill for many women 40 and over to swallow.Men in their age range probably aren’t looking for any kind of a formal commitment."I want women to feel they're desirable and hot," says Paula, who is 51 but looks younger."It's all about giving hope to women who feel they're on the scrap heap." With this in mind, one-to-one sessions are set up in the tea rooms of the capital's top hotels.Your focus now should be finding someone you’re attracted to and whose company you enjoy and forget about his living quarters and portfolio.– Yoram Soooo….let’s see how this comment goes over.Most people want to find a friend or a life partner, and to meet the dates who may fulfill this desire, many 50-somethings, about 80 percent in fact, do it the old-fashioned way — through friends or family. Dating after 40 or 50 means taking control of your love life, just like you do the rest of your life. Baggage bonding is when an early date shifts into deep conversation about some baggage you have in common. You start comparing your horrific ex-spouses or your crazy awful dates. Men know who and what they want, often better than we do. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a 20-something, right? His manners, his shirt, his smile, the way he talks about his kids. If he walks away from the date having shared too much or hasn’t learned about you, then there won't be a second date.

That’s true whether you’re 16 or 56, but more than 40 percent don’t believe there is anyone “out there” to date.Current clients – all female – include parole officers, psychotherapists and investment bankers (age range 30-70), who seek her advice on everything from how to spice up their internet profile to how to behave on a first date.Her approach, based on marketing techniques gleaned from years working in big corporations, isn't romantic, but she's convinced it works. But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.On the positive side, the age 50-plus daters seem to be pretty darn smart when choosing a date-mate.